Self-Care Practices

Carrying On: Rediscovering Our Shared Joys on My Own  

Carrying On: Rediscovering Our Shared Joys on My Own  
Since experiencing loss, I've noticed that engaging in activities like watching TV or revisiting shared interests without my loved one feels daunting. Shows, trips, and hobbies we once cherished together aren't the same without him. This realization isn’t merely about reluctance toward these activities themselves but a broader hesitance to relive those memories alone.

Faced with the idea of enjoying these experiences by myself, I often ask, can I truly enjoy them without him? This journey has taught me that moving forward doesn't mean forgetting—it's about blending cherished memories into my current life. Grief ebbs and flows, guiding me between moments of sadness and joy, reminding me it's okay to make space for memories while continuing to grow.

I've found solace in revisiting shared joys in smaller, manageable ways—like taking short drives or exploring history from home. These gentle steps help me feel connected without being overwhelmed, honoring the past while moving forward. It’s not about recreating what was, but about keeping the connection alive in a way that suits where I am now, reminding me and others that it’s fine to take our time rediscovering joy.
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Feeling Inspired but Drained? How We Move Forward When Motivation’s Low

Feeling Inspired but Drained? How We Move Forward When Motivation’s Low
Feeling stuck between inspiration and exhaustion is a common experience when motivation wavers, especially amidst life's challenges. The desire to transform your living space into a peaceful sanctuary can be daunting without the energy to follow through, likened to grief anchoring you down. But here's an encouraging thought: we don’t need to tackle everything at once. By breaking tasks into manageable chunks, each small achievement—like tidying a drawer or folding laundry—can spark a sense of progress without the overwhelming pressure of completing everything simultaneously.

Transforming housework from a chore into an opportunity for personal satisfaction can change how we approach our spaces. It's not merely about cleaning but creating an environment that feels comforting and welcoming. Simple shifts, like clearing a bedside table for a favorite book or organizing the kitchen counter, can contribute significantly to a fresher, more inviting atmosphere. By associating these actions with positive feelings, the process becomes less of a burden and more of a pathway to a happier home life.

On days when energy levels are low, it's important to start small and find joy in simple things, pairing tasks with enjoyable activities like listening to a favorite podcast or music. Progress thrives in these moments of simplicity; even small efforts count significantly toward our goals. By granting ourselves the grace to pause and rest, we acknowledge that rest is an integral part of progress. Embracing a slower pace allows us to move forward on our terms, ready to tackle life's challenges with intention and peace.
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Winter Self-Care: Embracing Your Cocoon

Winter Self-Care: Embracing Your Cocoon
The blog post captures the comforting notion of cocooning at home during winter, highlighting how this can be both a response to personal grief and the natural tendency of introverts to recharge in the solace of quiet spaces. Winter, with its short days and long nights, often mirrors the internal pause many experience when coping with loss, making the sanctuary of one's home feel even more inviting. By embracing the idea that it's perfectly acceptable to prefer quiet moments over social gatherings, the post offers reassurance to those who feel the same pull to hibernate and navigate this heavy season gently.

It's important to recognize that cocooning at home is not about isolating completely, but rather finding balance and nurturing oneself through small, comforting rituals. This might include using calming essentials like Lavender or Northern Lights Black Spruce in a diffuser, creating a cozy space with soft lighting and blankets, or simply allowing oneself the freedom to say no to social activities. These acts of self-care foster a nurturing environment where healing can naturally occur, offering space to breathe, reflect, and process feelings without the pressure of external expectations.

The blog emphasizes that embracing this period of quietude is a seasonal phase—one that aligns with nature’s rhythm and offers a valuable opportunity for personal growth and transformation. As spring eventually arrives and the days grow longer, one will naturally feel ready to re-emerge and engage with the world anew. Until then, sharing stories and tips on finding solace during winter can remind others that it’s okay to take the time needed to rejuvenate before stepping forward renewed.
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Done Is Better Than Perfect: Small Steps for Wellness and Growth in the New Year

Done Is Better Than Perfect: Small Steps for Wellness and Growth in the New Year
Navigating life changes can be challenging, but embracing a mindset shift focused on small, intentional progress can make a significant difference. Instead of striving for perfection, celebrating small wins and finding joy in everyday actions helps maintain consistency with wellness goals. Simple actions such as drinking an extra glass of water or diffusing calming essential oils can contribute to positive changes without feeling overwhelming.

The lesson of "done is better than perfect" encourages letting go of the all-or-nothing mindset. By avoiding the trap of perfectionism, progress becomes more attainable through manageable steps. It's about starting where you are and using each step forward as a building block towards improved wellness.

Embracing imperfections allows for finding joy in life's small moments and reinforces the power of simple, grounding habits. By focusing on natural and intentional choices, such as healthy eating and using supportive products, these deliberate steps shape a path toward lasting change. Recognizing that wellness doesn't have to be overwhelming and can be achieved one intentional choice at a time creates a transformative journey rooted in progress and personal growth.
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Journaling and Blog Writing as Therapy: Writing My Way Through Emotions

Journaling and Blog Writing as Therapy: Writing My Way Through Emotions
Writing has evolved into a vital outlet in my life, serving as a therapeutic tool to navigate overwhelming emotions and stress. Whether through private journaling or public blogging, writing provides a space for unfiltered expression, offering clarity and emotional relief. Through this blog, I share my journey and insights, hoping to inspire others feeling similarly overwhelmed to embrace writing as a form of therapy.

Journaling stands out as a powerful method to organize thoughts and emotions, allowing for a raw and honest self-exploration. It offers a private canvas to process feelings without the need for perfection or pressure, making it accessible to anyone. To support newcomers to journaling, I provide a downloadable set of prompts aimed at helping individuals, particularly from the GenX crowd, delve deeper into their emotions and find that starting point.

Blogging takes the writing experience further by creating connections and fostering community support. Sharing personal stories and vulnerabilities online opens doors to shared experiences and mutual understanding, highlighting that none of us are truly alone. Whether your writing is meant for private reflection or public sharing, it has the power to transform how we handle life's challenges and emotions, inviting everyone to start their own journey of personal discovery through words.
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*This blog centers the GenX experience, simply because that’s the lens I live through—but anyone looking for connection, natural wellness, grief support, or a little real-talk in this messy stage of life is more than welcome.

Hi! I'm AJ Flanagan.

 
Hey there! I’m a GenX empty-nester - and recent widow - who had a wake-up call about the hidden toxins in everyday products we used growing up. Our parents didn’t know, and honestly, we were clueless too. But now, I’m all about sharing the details and helping others kick those sneaky chemicals to the curb for a healthier, happier life. 🌿

Life threw us a curveball in 2018 when my amazing husband, Eric, was diagnosed with leukemia. And then a second type of cancer in 2023.  Supporting him through his treatments was challenging, but it also inspired us to make some positive changes. We embraced holistic wellness practices, worked to transform our home into a toxin-free sanctuary, and incorporated relaxation techniques like meditation, music therapy, and aromatherapy into our daily routine.

Caring for and supporting Eric deepened my commitment to living well. From choosing natural products and prioritizing nutritious foods to finding strength in vulnerability, we built a daily routine focused on positivity and wellness. 

I’m passionate about sharing our story, the lessons we learned, and the simple steps we took to enhance our overall well-being.


Creating a Nurturing Space Together

We focused on creating a nurturing environment where both of us could thrive. It was a process of resilience, love, and continuous learning that I'm determined to carry forward from here. I’m eager to share our experiences, the lessons we picked up along the way, and the small changes that made a big difference in our lives. Whether you’re looking to make minor adjustments or dive into a complete wellness transformation, I hope our story can inspire and support you on your own path.

Here’s to embracing change, supporting each other, and living our best lives—together! ✨

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