Growth has a funny way of sneaking up on you — sometimes it’s the kind you go looking for, and sometimes it’s the kind that finds you anyway.
Forward Growth: The Melody Everyone Can Hear
This past year and a half have been full of both for me. And no matter how it shows up, forward growth is the easiest kind to recognize. It’s the promotion, the new skill, the milestone you finally hit, the visible personal development wins... and sometimes just getting through to face the next day. Those moments are worth celebrating — they’re the melody everyone can hear.
But here’s the thing: a melody without harmony feels thin. It can even sound hollow.
Sideways Growth: The Harmony That Gives It Depth
That’s where sideways growth — the emotional and relational kind — comes in. It’s the background harmony that makes the melody powerful. The friendships that make your achievements sweeter. The spiritual grounding that keeps your success from floating away. The emotional depth that transforms a milestone into more than just a line item on your résumé.
• In my health routines, the sideways growth was in the emotional support I had around me — family checking in, friends cheering me on. That made sticking with it possible.
• In personal growth — saying yes to speaking up or taking on new responsibilities — the sideways growth was in the confidence built quietly at home, in faith, or in conversations where I could be fully myself and share personal stuff.
• In seasons of loss, the forward growth of “getting through it” would have felt shallow without the sideways growth of reflection, relationships, and even little sparks of joy that kept me grounded and sometimes smiling through my tears.
I’ve had goals that, once reached, felt strangely empty. On paper, they looked like progress. But without that sideways depth — without family, faith, or connection in the mix — they didn’t feel like real growth.
The Symphony of Real Growth
The milestones that changed me most weren’t just about moving forward. They were about expanding outward. They were layered with background music that made the whole song fuller, more beautiful, more lasting.
Forward growth builds the melody. Sideways growth gives it harmony. Together, that’s where you find a life that actually sings.
And maybe that’s the point — growth isn’t meant to be a solo line of accomplishments. It’s meant to be a symphony. Faith adds depth, grace, and direction. Family and friendships provide the harmony that steadies the song. Even the quiet moments of joy or sorrow become notes in a bigger piece... those silences within a symphony are as important as the biggest notes.
Where Real Peace Lives
We need the kind of growth that balances achievement with connection — that’s where real peace lives. It’s what turns progress into something sacred. It becomes worship. It becomes love. It becomes a song worth remembering.
What about you? Can you think of a time when sideways growth — the quiet, background kind — made all the difference in how something felt, not just how it looked on paper?
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