My Calm Morning (Most Days): What’s Actually Working for Me
I’m still under the covers. Eyes mostly closed. Brain not fully online yet. And I’ve got the Dwell app playing — daily Scripture and a short lesson.It’s the easiest win of my whole day.
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How Family History Keeps Me Grounded (Especially During Life’s Hardest Moments)
It hit me recently that I’ve never really stopped living in the past—and I mean that in the a good kind of way.I’ve always been the one in the family who asks about the great-grandparents no one remembers. The one who pulls over for historical markers, gets lost in old newspaper clippings, and secretly prefers a vintage map over GPS. Some people collect souvenirs when they travel—I like to collect stories...
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Old Map, New Road: Making Peace with a Future That Looks Different
I’ve always been someone who liked having a plan. Not a rigid, every-minute-mapped-out kind of plan—but a general sense of what was ahead, where we were headed, and what we were building toward. Especially in recent years, Eric and I had started dreaming about what life could look like once the busy years slowed down a bit.We thought we had time...
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Holding Two Truths at Once: Living with Grief, Growth, and Everyday Life After Loss
Some days, I can laugh at a meme, cry in the shower, check off a to-do list, and miss Eric so deeply it physically aches—all before noon. It’s kinda disorienting. But it’s also how I know I’m still here, still feeling.That’s the thing nobody really prepares you for: how often conflicting emotions show up holding hands. You can be grateful and overwhelmed. Hopeful and heartbroken. Healing and still hurting.That part—holding two truths at once—feels like a quiet superpower. One we’re not taught growing up, but end up learning when life hands us something heavy. It becomes a survival skill. A lifeline...
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Stop ‘Shoulding’ on Yourself
Many of us find ourselves burdened with a never-ending list of "shoulds," such as the need to be more productive or lead a healthier lifestyle. These expectations often originate from society, family, or our inner critic rather than from our genuine desires. By pausing and questioning the source of these "shoulds," we can liberate ourselves from unnecessary pressures and live more authentically.Instead of accepting these societal pressures, we can reframe them to align with our true needs and values. For example, instead of feeling compelled to work out daily, we can choose ways to move our bodies that genuinely feel good. By shifting focus from external expectations to what genuinely serves our well-being, wellness becomes a supportive practice rather than a burden.Challenging the spiral of unrealistic "shoulds" involves recognizing what's genuinely important to us. By asking "Says who?" we can start to dismantle the self-imposed pressures that don't serve us. Ultimately, this shift allows us to pursue a life that feels more authentic and fulfilling, free from the constraints of unnecessary expectations.
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The Art of Doing Nothing (And Why It’s Harder Than It Sounds)
The blog post delves into the misunderstood value of "doing nothing" and how society has conditioned us to equate busyness with worth. It explores the struggle of disengaging from constant productivity and embracing downtime, emphasizing that rest is crucial for mental health, creative thinking, and emotional balance. The author highlights how technology and the fear of boredom or confronting one's thoughts contribute to the difficulty of simply existing without distractions.Throughout the post, the author experiments with strategies to embrace downtime, such as reframing rest as an essential activity, starting with small increments of time, and engaging in low-effort activities like cloud-watching or sipping tea. By using timers and allowing the mind to wander without an agenda, the author finds a balance that helps to overcome the discomfort of inactivity. The narrative encourages readers to challenge the societal norms that glorify busyness and recognize the importance of this self-care practice.The take-home message is clear: doing nothing is not laziness but a necessary reset that benefits both mind and body. The author calls readers, especially fellow essential oil enthusiasts, to share their experiences with embracing downtime and the role oils play in enhancing relaxation. By normalizing the practice of simply being, the post advocates for a life that includes moments of pause and reflection, which can be enriched with the use of essential oils.
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Carrying On: Rediscovering Our Shared Joys on My Own Â
Since experiencing loss, I've noticed that engaging in activities like watching TV or revisiting shared interests without my loved one feels daunting. Shows, trips, and hobbies we once cherished together aren't the same without him. This realization isn’t merely about reluctance toward these activities themselves but a broader hesitance to relive those memories alone.Faced with the idea of enjoying these experiences by myself, I often ask, can I truly enjoy them without him? This journey has taught me that moving forward doesn't mean forgetting—it's about blending cherished memories into my current life. Grief ebbs and flows, guiding me between moments of sadness and joy, reminding me it's okay to make space for memories while continuing to grow.I've found solace in revisiting shared joys in smaller, manageable ways—like taking short drives or exploring history from home. These gentle steps help me feel connected without being overwhelmed, honoring the past while moving forward. It’s not about recreating what was, but about keeping the connection alive in a way that suits where I am now, reminding me and others that it’s fine to take our time rediscovering joy.
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Feeling Inspired but Drained? How We Move Forward When Motivation’s Low
Feeling stuck between inspiration and exhaustion is a common experience when motivation wavers, especially amidst life's challenges. The desire to transform your living space into a peaceful sanctuary can be daunting without the energy to follow through, likened to grief anchoring you down. But here's an encouraging thought: we don’t need to tackle everything at once. By breaking tasks into manageable chunks, each small achievement—like tidying a drawer or folding laundry—can spark a sense of progress without the overwhelming pressure of completing everything simultaneously.Transforming housework from a chore into an opportunity for personal satisfaction can change how we approach our spaces. It's not merely about cleaning but creating an environment that feels comforting and welcoming. Simple shifts, like clearing a bedside table for a favorite book or organizing the kitchen counter, can contribute significantly to a fresher, more inviting atmosphere. By associating these actions with positive feelings, the process becomes less of a burden and more of a pathway to a happier home life.On days when energy levels are low, it's important to start small and find joy in simple things, pairing tasks with enjoyable activities like listening to a favorite podcast or music. Progress thrives in these moments of simplicity; even small efforts count significantly toward our goals. By granting ourselves the grace to pause and rest, we acknowledge that rest is an integral part of progress. Embracing a slower pace allows us to move forward on our terms, ready to tackle life's challenges with intention and peace.
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Winter Self-Care: Embracing Your Cocoon
The blog post captures the comforting notion of cocooning at home during winter, highlighting how this can be both a response to personal grief and the natural tendency of introverts to recharge in the solace of quiet spaces. Winter, with its short days and long nights, often mirrors the internal pause many experience when coping with loss, making the sanctuary of one's home feel even more inviting. By embracing the idea that it's perfectly acceptable to prefer quiet moments over social gatherings, the post offers reassurance to those who feel the same pull to hibernate and navigate this heavy season gently.It's important to recognize that cocooning at home is not about isolating completely, but rather finding balance and nurturing oneself through small, comforting rituals. This might include using calming essentials like Lavender or Northern Lights Black Spruce in a diffuser, creating a cozy space with soft lighting and blankets, or simply allowing oneself the freedom to say no to social activities. These acts of self-care foster a nurturing environment where healing can naturally occur, offering space to breathe, reflect, and process feelings without the pressure of external expectations.The blog emphasizes that embracing this period of quietude is a seasonal phase—one that aligns with nature’s rhythm and offers a valuable opportunity for personal growth and transformation. As spring eventually arrives and the days grow longer, one will naturally feel ready to re-emerge and engage with the world anew. Until then, sharing stories and tips on finding solace during winter can remind others that it’s okay to take the time needed to rejuvenate before stepping forward renewed.
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Who Am I Without Us? Rediscovering Myself After Loss
The blog post reflects on the journey of rediscovering oneself after the passing of a life-long partner. After nearly 40 years of shared life experiences, the author finds herself grappling with her identity as she transitions from being part of an "us" to being just "me." The feelings of being left half of a whole resonate deeply, underscoring the challenges that come with redefining roles and navigating life independently.In this period of adjustment, the focus is on growth, acknowledging that life must continue moving forward despite the absence of a beloved partner. Embracing the values and lessons learned throughout their shared life, the author seeks to find a balance between holding onto cherished memories and making space for new growth. Essential to this process is maintaining her passion for natural wellness, which involves supporting healthy body systems and reducing toxin exposure—a philosophy reinforced by her shared journey with her partner.Ultimately, the blog emphasizes that this journey is not about reinventing oneself but rather about evolving. It highlights the importance of taking small, intentional steps into the unknown while carrying forward the love and legacy built together. Through this process of rediscovery, the author conveys hope and resilience, encouraging others facing similar transitions to embrace their journey, acknowledging it’s okay to take time and feel unsteady while moving forward one step at a time.
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