Mindful Living

Life Is Short — And I’m Finally Paying Attention

Life Is Short — And I’m Finally Paying Attention
Life is short — and I don’t mean that in the cliché “Live, Laugh, Love” way that belongs on a distressed wooden sign at Hobby Lobby. I mean it in the way you feel it when life yanks the rug out from under you and the air feels too thin to breathe.

It has been one year since Eric died.

And in all the grief, the quiet moments, the ruminating I keep trying not to do, there’s this one truth that keeps coming back to me again and again:

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Still Growing, Still Grieving: Reflections at the Almost Six-Month Mark

Still Growing, Still Grieving: Reflections at the Almost Six-Month Mark
Standing at my kitchen window, I noticed tiny buds forming on the apple trees. The grass is finally greening up, birds are making their way back from their winter homes, and the sun is shining again with that unmistakable promise of Spring.

This is our favorite time of year.

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Rediscovering Social Life: When Life Pushes You Back into Community

Rediscovering Social Life: When Life Pushes You Back into Community

Navigating the Balance Between Solitude and Social Interaction


For years, I embraced a rhythm of quiet comfort: transitioning from "stay-at-home mom" to "stay-at-home Nana," delighting in busy, joyful times with my grandkids. But as they entered school, my days became quieter. Embracing solitude, I found peace in the stillness, even as I questioned if I'd grown too comfortable in my isolation.

A shift occurred as my husband's cancer treatments necessitated frequent trips to the city, reintroducing me to social situations. Navigating new spaces, I engaged with others facing similar challenges, discovering strength in shared experiences. These connections, although initially inconvenient, revealed how vital human interaction is for emotional support and perspective.

Finding the balance between social engagement and solitude has become crucial. While connecting with others provides comfort and reduces anxiety, recognizing the need for personal retreat ensures emotional recharge. Ultimately, blending solitude with socialization fosters harmony, reminding me of my resilience in adapting to life's changes.
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The Scrunchy Revolution: Balancing Natural Living with Modern Comforts,

The Scrunchy Revolution: Balancing Natural Living with Modern Comforts,
Embrace the "Scrunchy" lifestyle, a balance between the holistic, natural approach and the convenience of modern living, without feeling any guilt or pressure. This concept encourages making eco-friendly choices, like using reusable shopping bags and water bottles, and enjoying a diet that combines whole, natural foods with your favorite indulgences. It’s about adopting a mindful approach to living that suits your unique preferences and values.

Incorporating natural living practices, such as using essential oils for aromatherapy, while still enjoying modern comforts like air conditioning highlights the essence of being scrunchy. It's about progress, not perfection, in achieving a more sustainable lifestyle. Every small change, from choosing biodegradable cleaning products to reducing plastic waste, is a commendable step toward a better future.

Ultimately, living scrunchy means finding a personal balance that resonates with you, celebrating your progress toward a sustainable lifestyle, and enjoying the journey. It's a testament to living authentically, aligning with your values without conforming to a specific lifestyle mold. The scrunchy way of life invites you to bask in the unique blend of natural and modern living, making it your own.
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✨ My blog exists because I know what it feels like to keep everything jumbled in your head — like a messy pile of clothes you can’t sort through.

 Writing it all down brings clarity, calm, and sometimes even healing answers I didn’t know I was looking for.


Honestly, that’s why I keep showing up to write — it helps me make sense of things. 

 Even if you have no intentions of ever publishing your work, I highly recommend writing stuff down. It doesn't have to be a literary masterpiece or even full, grammatically correct sentences... just dump those random thoughts onto paper... you'll see what I mean.

Hi! I'm AJ Flanagan.

 
Hey there — I’m AJ.

I’m an empty-nester and a widow who had a wake-up call about the hidden toxins in everyday products most of us grew up using. Our parents didn’t know. We didn’t know either. But once you start paying attention, it’s hard to ignore.

Life shifted in 2018 when my husband, Eric, was diagnosed with leukemia — and again in 2023 when we faced a second cancer diagnosis. Supporting him through treatment changed how we looked at just about everything, including how we cared for our home, our bodies, and our day-to-day routines.
We didn’t aim for perfection or extremes. We focused on simple, meaningful changes — reducing toxic load in our home, choosing better ingredients, prioritizing nourishing food, and building calmer rhythms into daily life. Tools like aromatherapy, music, meditation, and intentional rest became part of how we coped and stayed grounded.

Caring for Eric deepened my commitment to living well — not as a trend, but as a way of showing up with intention and grace, even in the hard seasons.

Now I share our story, the lessons we learned, the small changes that made a big difference, and how I'm moving forward. My hope is to make wellness feel more approachable, less overwhelming, and rooted in real life — especially for anyone who wants healthier options without pressure or perfection.

If you’re here to find what actually works for you, you’re in the right place.

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