Personal Reflections

You Don’t Just Lose Someone Once

You Don’t Just Lose Someone Once
Grief is not a singular event to be overcome, but a continuous process that reverberates through our daily lives. Each day brings new reminders and a fresh sense of loss as the realization that our loved ones are gone resurfaces repeatedly. This journey is a relentless cycle, where grief emerges unexpectedly, echoing with the memories and emotions tied to the ones we've lost.

Navigating grief is about learning to live with these recurring waves rather than overcoming them. It highlights the importance of allowing ourselves to feel and accept this perpetual grief, acknowledging that there is no timeline or conclusion. The weight of loss may vary each day, but nurturing the capacity to stay afloat is a testament to both our resilience and the enduring impact of our memories and love.

Embracing grief also means honoring the love and memories we continue to hold. Through each wave of sorrow, we find a reflection of the profound connections we have known, reinforcing that such bonds, although transformed by grief, remain steadfast. As we journey through this shared experience of loss, extending compassion to ourselves and others becomes crucial, offering a reminder that we are not alone on this path.
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Carrying On: Rediscovering Our Shared Joys on My Own  

Carrying On: Rediscovering Our Shared Joys on My Own  
Since experiencing loss, I've noticed that engaging in activities like watching TV or revisiting shared interests without my loved one feels daunting. Shows, trips, and hobbies we once cherished together aren't the same without him. This realization isn’t merely about reluctance toward these activities themselves but a broader hesitance to relive those memories alone.

Faced with the idea of enjoying these experiences by myself, I often ask, can I truly enjoy them without him? This journey has taught me that moving forward doesn't mean forgetting—it's about blending cherished memories into my current life. Grief ebbs and flows, guiding me between moments of sadness and joy, reminding me it's okay to make space for memories while continuing to grow.

I've found solace in revisiting shared joys in smaller, manageable ways—like taking short drives or exploring history from home. These gentle steps help me feel connected without being overwhelmed, honoring the past while moving forward. It’s not about recreating what was, but about keeping the connection alive in a way that suits where I am now, reminding me and others that it’s fine to take our time rediscovering joy.
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Emotional Wellness for GenX: Overcoming Overwhelm and Finding Balance

Emotional Wellness for GenX: Overcoming Overwhelm and Finding Balance
Life often throws unexpected challenges our way, making it essential to prioritize emotional wellness. Navigating through trying times—such as losing a loved one or dealing with significant health issues in the family—highlights the importance of managing emotional stress effectively. For me, this journey has involved learning to acknowledge my emotions, focusing on self-care, and leaning on my support system.

Emotional wellness is about more than just an absence of stress; it requires proactive steps to maintain a positive mindset and balanced life. Simple self-care acts, like enjoying a quiet moment with a cup of tea or engaging in creative activities, can significantly impact our well-being. It's also crucial to set realistic expectations and seek professional help when necessary.

In future blogs, I plan to explore the role of essential oils and aromatherapy in enhancing emotional wellness, particularly their effect on the limbic system—the emotional center of our brain. Stay tuned as I delve into this subject and share practical applications of essential oils to support emotional health. Let's build a community that prioritizes mental well-being and learns to navigate life's chaos together.
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Hi! I'm AJ Flanagan.

 
Hey there — I’m AJ.

I’m an empty-nester and a widow who had a wake-up call about the hidden toxins in everyday products most of us grew up using. Our parents didn’t know. We didn’t know either. But once you start paying attention, it’s hard to ignore.

Life shifted in 2018 when my husband, Eric, was diagnosed with leukemia — and again in 2023 when we faced a second cancer diagnosis. Supporting him through treatment changed how we looked at just about everything, including how we cared for our home, our bodies, and our day-to-day routines.
We didn’t aim for perfection or extremes. We focused on simple, meaningful changes — reducing toxic load in our home, choosing better ingredients, prioritizing nourishing food, and building calmer rhythms into daily life. Tools like aromatherapy, music, meditation, and intentional rest became part of how we coped and stayed grounded.

Caring for Eric deepened my commitment to living well — not as a trend, but as a way of showing up with intention and grace, even in the hard seasons.

Now I share our story, the lessons we learned, the small changes that made a big difference, and how I'm moving forward. My hope is to make wellness feel more approachable, less overwhelming, and rooted in real life — especially for anyone who wants healthier options without pressure or perfection.

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