The weird thing about this stage of life—whether you call it menopause, perimenopause, or “whatever’s happening to me right now”—is that it sneaks up on you. One day you’re fine, and the next you’re standing in the kitchen thinking, “Wait… why am I here again?” while wondering if it’s normal to be sweating through your T-shirt at 9 a.m.

It’s subtle at first. A few nights of restless sleep. A little more irritability than usual. Brain fog that makes conversations feel like a mental obstacle course. Then suddenly you’re Googling things like “natural hot flash relief” or “how to sleep better in menopause.”

A few weeks ago, I was unintentionally part of someone's mini photo shoot while at the park watching my grandkids play. I had no idea I was in the background of their perfectly posed moment until it was too late—and now, somewhere out there, I’m forever captured mid-sip of my chocolate milkshake, (which, for the record, I ordered with zero shame at 10:30 a.m. because adulthood has to have some perks) in their photo album as “random lady living her best life.”

It got me thinking: How many times have I been a background character in someone else’s story without even realizing it? Not the star, not the villain—just the extra who happened to walk by, hold a door, or make a random comment that may or may not have stuck with them. You know what I mean?

I saw this meme the other day claiming that when women vent to each other, it actually helps us lower cortisol, boost serotonin, and build stronger neural pathways. At first, I laughed and thought, Well that explains a lot. Then I did a little digging—and guess what? That meme wasn’t just internet fluff. It was onto something...

I saw this meme the other day that hit me right in the soul:

I read it once… then read it again. And I just sat with it for a minute...