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Holding Two Truths at Once: Living with Grief, Growth, and Everyday Life After Loss

Holding Two Truths at Once: Living with Grief, Growth, and Everyday Life After Loss

AJ Flanagan Emotional Wellness, Grief and Healing, Life After Loss, Living in the In-Between, personal growth, Real Life Reflections
Some days, I can laugh at a meme, cry in the shower, check off a to-do list, and miss Eric so deeply it physically aches—all before noon. It’s kinda disorienting. But it’s also how I know I’m still here, still feeling.That’s the thing nobody really prepares you for: how often conflicting emotions show up holding hands. You can be grateful and overwhelmed. Hopeful and heartbroken. Healing and still hurting.That part—holding two truths at once—feels like a quiet superpower. One we’re not taught growing up, but end up learning when life hands us something heavy. It becomes a survival skill. A lifeline...
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Weird Until It Works: Why I Started Questioning ‘Normal’

Weird Until It Works: Why I Started Questioning ‘Normal’

AJ Flanagan Healthy Habits, Holistic Living, Intentional Wellness, Mindset Shifts, natural wellness, personal growth, Progress Over Perfection, Real-Life Wellness Shifts, Simplified Living, Small Wins for Wellness
This blog is a bit of a followup on a recent one I wrote about 10 things that I used to think were woo-woo - until they actually worked. All of the comments and emails I got afterwards got me to thinking. Why do we think that stuff is woo-woo in the first place? Remember the movie "White Nights" with Mikhail Baryshnikov,  Gregory Hines, Isabella Rossellini, and Helen Mirren? I used to play that soundtrack over and over and can still remember the lyrics to Lou Reed's song "My Love is Chemical" from it. Their meaning is actually more metaphorical than I understood back then when I took them quite literally...
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Simple Swaps, Real Conversations, and a Side of Income

Simple Swaps, Real Conversations, and a Side of Income

AJ Flanagan Everyday Toxin-Free Swaps, Healthy Habits, Intentional Living, natural wellness, personal growth, Real Talk on Earning, Sharing What You Love, Simplified Living
If you had told me years ago that I’d be sharing about natural wellness products and mentoring others through it, I probably would’ve side-eyed you over my cup of tea.I mean… I didn’t exactly plan on doing this. I just started using a few things from Young Living—swapped out some household cleaners, tried a supplement or two, added oils to my bedtime routine—and realized I felt better. Healthier. More me.
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10 Things I Thought Were Woo-Woo—Until They Actually Helped

10 Things I Thought Were Woo-Woo—Until They Actually Helped

AJ Flanagan Alternative Healing, Emotional Wellness, essential oils, Holistic Habits, Mindset Shifts, personal growth, Progress Over Perfection, Simplified Living
I used to roll my eyes at a lot of things.Putting oils on your feet? Tapping your face to feel better? Standing barefoot in the yard to “absorb the Earth’s energy”? Yeah, okay. I was polite about it, but internally? I was side-eyeing hard.But somewhere between real-life stress, adulting, and trying to feel better without living at the doctor’s office, I got curious enough to try a few of those “woo-woo” wellness things. And to my surprise... a bunch of them actually helped. Like, really helped.So here’s my very honest list of wellness stuff I once thought was weird, but now I swear by. Maybe a few will click for you too...
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10 Weirdly Specific Things That Make Me Feel Better (And Might Work for You Too)

10 Weirdly Specific Things That Make Me Feel Better (And Might Work for You Too)

AJ Flanagan Healthy Habits, Intentional Wellness, Mindset Shifts, personal growth, Progress Over Perfection, Self-Care Practices, Simplified Living, Small Wins for Wellness
You know those days when you’re overwhelmed, under-caffeinated, and about one dumb comment away from losing it? Yeah. I’ve had some of those lately. And while deep breathing, journaling, and drinking water are technically helpful… sometimes what I really need is to wipe down my counters and cabinets with Thieves Cleaner while listening to some 80s power ballads. Odd? Probably. Helpful? Definitely. So today, I’m sharing a list of 10 weirdly specific things that make me feel better—tiny, random things that bring a little joy, calm, or just make me feel more like myself. Maybe one or two of them will work for you, too. Bonus points if they inspire you to come up with your own little reset rituals.
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Still Growing, Still Grieving: Reflections at the Almost Six-Month Mark

Still Growing, Still Grieving: Reflections at the Almost Six-Month Mark

AJ Flanagan Coping with Grief, Emotional Wellness, Grief & Healing, Grief Reflections, Life After Loss, Mindful Living, personal growth, Widowhood and Healing
Standing at my kitchen window, I noticed tiny buds forming on the apple trees. The grass is finally greening up, birds are making their way back from their winter homes, and the sun is shining again with that unmistakable promise of Spring.This is our favorite time of year.Was...
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“Why Can’t I Just Do the Thing?” Signs of Adult ADHD in Women We Don’t Talk About Enough

“Why Can’t I Just Do the Thing?” Signs of Adult ADHD in Women We Don’t Talk About Enough

AJ Flanagan ADHD, Intentional Living, Mental Wellness, Mindset Shifts, Neurodivergence Awareness, personal growth, Simplified Living, Small Wins for Wellness
You know those days where everything is set up to go smoothly—and then somehow, nothing does? Yeah. I just had another one of those mornings.I had my water bottle prepped. I had my essential oils right there on the kitchen counter—Peppermint for focus, Citrus Fresh for a mood lift. My to-do list was written out the night before (a rare win!). But instead of starting my day with intention and clarity, I stood in the kitchen watching videos about productivity hacks while the diffuser sat there... bone dry.I knew exactly what would help me feel better. So why couldn’t I just do the thing? And how does one little deviation from my morning routine throw me so totally off track for the rest of the day?
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Boosting Brain Health by Accident (Literally): My Left-Handed Survival Guide

Boosting Brain Health by Accident (Literally): My Left-Handed Survival Guide

AJ Flanagan Brain Health, Intentional Wellness, Life Hacks for Gen X, Mindset Shifts, personal growth, Self-Care Practices, Simplified Living, Small Wins for Wellness
Well, I didn’t plan on breaking my right wrist in several places, but here we are. If life is about learning, then let’s just say I’ve been given a crash course in left-handed survival. How's it going, you ask? Let’s just say Stress Away and Valor have been in heavy diffuser rotation in recent days—especially when I drop the peanut butter jar trying to open it one-handed. But as much as I’d love to sit here and complain to you about how hard it is to apply peanut butter to toast with my non-dominant hand, I’ve decided instead to take this as an unexpected opportunity to grow—because apparently, forcing your brain to do things differently has some serious perks. Who knew?
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Dear Younger Me: Here’s What Really Matters

Dear Younger Me: Here’s What Really Matters

AJ Flanagan Healthy Aging, Intentional Wellness, Midlife Reflections, Mindset Shifts, personal growth, Progress Over Perfection, Self-Care Practices, Simplified Living
When I was younger, I had this vision of what life would look like by now. I’d be effortlessly successful, totally put-together, and somehow still look 25—but better. My house would belong in a magazine, my life plan would be rock solid, and I’d be one of those people who just knew what they were doing all the time.Fast-forward to today, and… well, let’s just say reality had other plans. Turns out, some of the things I thought would be important don’t actually matter at all. And the things that do? Yeah, I never saw those coming...
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How Creativity Supports Healing: A New Chapter in Self-Care & Growth

How Creativity Supports Healing: A New Chapter in Self-Care & Growth

AJ Flanagan Creativity & Healing, Finding What Works, History & Storytelling, Life After Loss, Midlife Reinvention, Mindfulness & Presence, personal growth, Personal Growth Through Grief, Self-Care Practices, Wellness & Balance
Since Eric passed away last November, I’ve been navigating grief and personal growth, learning how creative self-care and mindfulness can help with healing. Taking better care of myself—physically, mentally, and emotionally—has become a priority, and I’ve discovered that midlife reinvention often starts with small, intentional changes.Writing about all of this in my blog has been a big piece of the puzzle for me and I don't see myself stopping anytime soon... so I hope you enjoy! Recently, my friend Jennifer and I decided to dive into another project that feels like a breath of fresh air for both of us: we started a podcast called "Folklore & Facts: Grandmas Getting to the Bottom of It."
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✨ My blog exists because I know what it feels like to keep everything jumbled in your head — like a messy pile of clothes you can’t sort through.

 Writing it all down brings clarity, calm, and sometimes even healing answers I didn’t know I was looking for.


Honestly, that’s why I keep showing up to write — it helps me make sense of things. 

 Even if you have no intentions of ever publishing your work, I highly recommend writing stuff down. It doesn't have to be a literary masterpiece or even full, grammatically correct sentences... just dump those random thoughts onto paper... you'll see what I mean.

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Hi! I'm AJ Flanagan.

 
Hi! I'm AJ Flanagan.
I'm endlessly curious about what helps people live healthier, happier, and more intentional lives.

Over the years I've explored everything from cleaner living and better nutrition to habits, grief, stress, relationships, history, and the everyday choices that shape how we live. I'm not interested in chasing perfection or the latest trends. I'm interested in finding what actually works in real life.

Walking alongside my husband, Eric, through two cancer diagnoses changed the way I thought about health, home, and what truly matters. After his passing, that curiosity didn't end—it grew.

Today I write about healthier living, personal growth, and the lessons I'm learning along the way, always hoping something I share helps someone else.

My hope is that this space feels less like a classroom and more like a conversation over coffee—where curiosity replaces pressure, progress matters more than perfection, and together we discover what actually works.

I'm glad you're here and if that sounds like the kind of conversation you'd enjoy, I hope you'll stick around.

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